Page 149 of The Confidant
Anyway, he’s really awesome, and the more time we spend together, the more desperate I am to get out of the friend zone. I mean, I went as far as asking another guy out to make him jealous.
Dumb…I know. Especially since the other guy was totally into someone else.
Anyway, I’m worried that if I tell him about my feelings and he doesn’t feel the same, it will make things really weird. Especially since we’ll literally be living in the same house next year—as roommates.
Like, how am I supposed to live across the hall from him and not make it obvious that I think he’s the most beautiful and amazing human to ever exist?
Ugh. I know that sounds dramatic, but I really don’t know what to do.
Do I just pretend like I’m not in love with him and hope he makes the first move? Or do I tell him how I feel and hope that by some miracle he feels the same, and we can start living the life of my daydreams soon?
Help!
-Pining for my mega-hot best friend.
“Well, that sounds amazingly familiar,” I said when I’d finished reading.
“I know, right?” he said. “I could have basically written the same email last year… And again this year, too.”
“Me too,” I said. “You know, except for the roommates part. Nowthatsounds exciting.”
“What…you mean you sleeping in the girls’ dorm and me in the boys’ dorm but sharing the same common room doesn’t count as living in the same place?” Hunter raised an eyebrow. “I’m pretty sure we’ve basically been roommates since freshman year.”
“Fine. I’ll just tell my dad that I’ve been roommates with my boyfriend for four years.” I grinned. “I’m sure that would make him feel even more warm and cozy towards you.”
I watched Hunter’s life flash before his eyes at the prospect of me telling my dad something like that. After stumbling to speak, he said, “Okay, m-maybe it’s a little different than that. We definitely don’t need to give your dad even more reasons to worry about the path of darkness I’m leading you down.”
“Yeah…probably keep our semi-roommate status just between us,” I agreed with a smile. Then looking back to the column he’d written, I asked, “So what advice did you give this girl? Anything good?”
“I think it’s pretty good. But you should probably read it yourself.”
Dear Pining for my mega-hot best friend,
Sounds like you are in a very tricky situation indeed. One that may surprise our readers to discover that I, myself, have actually been in for several years because I have been in love with my own best friend since my freshman year.
It took me a long time to figure out how to get out of the friend zone—and she actually helped me out with it quite a bit because she is braver than me—but I just wanted to tell you that from my own experience, it can be so rewarding to put yourself out there and tell the person you care about exactly how you feel.
There is always the risk that your friend won’t reciprocate your feelings, and things might become awkward for a little while. But like you already mentioned, confessing your feelings may also be just what you need to start an amazing new journey with your best friend—something possibly even better than what you’ve dreamed of having.
I know that for me, falling in love with my best friend and pushing through the difficult times has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. And if I had to do it again, I would. Because she is simply everything to me and I would literally do anything for her.
So basically, my advice is to put yourself out there—even if you need to start with one of those social media“kissing your best friend challenges.”
If it goes well, you might have a fun first-kiss story to tell your family and friends about. And if it doesn’t, you can always pass it off as just jumping on the trend with hopes of going viral and nothing more.
It’s up to you, of course, but that’s totally what I was going to do before my best friend beat me to it.
“You were planning to do that best-friend-kissing challenge with me?” I gasped.
“I was.” He got a bashful look on his face. “Ever since I saw one of the videos during sophomore year, I’d been trying to get up the nerve to do it.”
“Really?” My voice raised in pitch because Hunter was basically the sweetest guy in the whole world.
He nodded.
So I had to say, “Well that’s kind of funny because I wanted to do it back then, too.”
“You did?”
