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Most importantly, I make a concerted effort to always see the silver lining—even when things aren’t great.Especially when things aren’t great.
Our marriage isn’t perfect, but it’s better than ever.
There’s an adage that says not to sweat the small stuff. In some ways, that’s true. To stay happily married, I must accept that the bathroom toilet seat will never be down, and there will never be a day I can walk in my house and not trip over Jack’s shoes.
But, in other ways, that advice is wrong.
It’s the small stuff that makes or breaks our marriage. It’s the coffee in bed, the getting gas for the other person because they hate doing it. It’s making sure to buy her favorite brand of cotton swabs, and we always have his favorite brand of barbecue sauce in the pantry.
The small stuff—keeping your socks together in the laundry basket and shutting cabinet doors when you’re finished—is important. The magic is taking the time to have a conversation about something that seems insignificant and sending texts throughout the day, just to connect.
It’s about ensuring that you give nothing but it all to your marriage, that you say “I do” every single day.
