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Queer divorce support group Discord
General channel
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Hi, everyone. Glad to have found this space. I just filed for divorce from my husband and figured it couldn’t hurt to talk with some people who get it.
SadSingleGay: Welcome! How’d you find us?
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Is it too depressing to admit I googled for queer support groups and saw this space mentioned in a blog post?
SunshineWatermelon: That’s exactly how I found it! Welcome :)
MarriageSux: Ditto. Welcome.
Beckatronix: Welcome! Glad you found us. I’m one of the admins. You can tag or DM me with any questions. We’ve got an introductions channel if you’d like to share anything about yourself. No pressure to reveal anything personal. The welcome channel has an intro to using Discord (if you need it), descriptions of each channel, and the rules.
Bricker: [GIF that reads “Welcome, we have cookies”]
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Got any butterscotch oatmeal? Those are my fave.
Bricker: Those are my fave too! Seems like no one gives butterscotch the credit it deserves.
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Couldn’t agree more.
JavaJackOfAllTrades: [GIF of a butterscotch cookie being split in half and the chips all melty]
Tomwombat: Welcome! Glad to have new blood. I mean a new person. [GIF of a vampire]
Lightingthequeen: Don’t mind Tom. They don’t bite without permission.
SausageDog29: If you get lost in all the channels we have, don’t hesitate to ask questions. We’re a (mostly) friendly bunch.
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Introductionschannel
Bricker: Howdy! I’m a gay man going through a tough divorce. Lost a lot of my friends in the split, so I’m hoping to find some support here. Haven’t really joined an online group like this before, so not sure how much info I want to share yet.
Lezismore: Hey! I’m Rachel, early 30s. Lesbian (obvs from the username). Recently got divorced from my husband and came out. Lots of changes! Would love to talk with anyone who’s gone through something similar. Also, I love butterflies. Apologies in advance for tons of butterfly GIFs.
ImEnBee: 20-something Pokémon gremlin. Obsessed with anime and BL. Married my college best friend, but we discovered we’re better as friends. I’m on Discord all the time, and this seems like an interesting place to hang out.
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Like Bricker, I think I’m going to keep personal details minimum. Gay man and just started the divorce process. It should go pretty quickly. Coffee is life. I love cats and dogs equally, so please don’t make me choose.
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Ventingchannel
MarriageSux: My ex wants me to go to their family’s 4th of July picnic (we’re in the US, so you know, BBQ and fireworks). I don’t know what to do.
RandomQueer: Are you close with their family? Or are they using you as a buffer?
Ace-Freely: Didn’t they ask you to go to their grandma’s birthday party too and asked you not to tell people you’d split yet?
MarriageSux: @RandomQueer, yeah, my family…isn’t great. Theirs became like my new family. @Ace-Freely, yeah. Ugh. They were worried Grams’s heart issue would act up, but she found out, and it was fine.
JavaJackOfAllTrades: Oof. That’s so relatable. My ex also wants me to stay involved with some of his family stuff and other activities. It makes it hard to move on.