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I appreciate your indulgence on this topic

Theo

You are welcome, friend

Theo

Can I ask a personal question?

Mai

You can. Doesn’t mean I’ll answer it

Theo

Fair. How does the dating thing work when you’re demisexual?

Mai

Slowly. Painfully so. It’s mostly me waking up one day realizing I have a crush on a friend or a colleague and suddenly feeling awkward about it

Theo

Ah. I see. Well, if it makes you feel any better, my regular dating life is less slow burn and more glacial iceberg

Mai

LOL. I take it the date didn’t go well?

Theo

Let’s just say she wasn’t exactly impressed with my Kermit the Frog impression. I did win the trivia night though

Mai

Never change, Theo. Never, ever change

Mai

After our talk last night, I realized I didn’t explain what my demisexuality looks like

Theo

Go on

Mai

It’s not like I don’t get sexual feelings. I do. I often feel sexually attracted to people, but to do so I need an emotional connection. Sometimes I have that emotional connection, but my body isn’t interested. Other times I have that emotional connection and it’s like my body is revved up to ten thousand on the horny scale

Theo

It’s subjective

Mai

Yes! And there’s nothing I can do to control it. It’s kind of an either/or

Theo

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